Friends with Benefits is an excuse to be with someone on a greater level past platonic. It is something that people use to see if they are compatible with someone else they've viewed as a friend for a long time and then put into play all the characteristics of a relationship without giving it a title. Maybe its because the title creates a barrier that most don't like and are afraid to live up to or maybe its simply the cheap feel of what a relationship should be.
Personally, I've been through this and I have gotten caught up, which is not a pleasant feeling if the feelings you grow to have aren't reciprocated in the same manner but you learn about yourself I will say that.
The Good:
You learn about yourself and you see how far you can go with the willfulness of trying to achieve a relationship.
You see your human instinct for comfort.
You see yourself get caught up slowly and surely.
You express yourself more whether vocal or through your physical demeanor.
You realize there are just somethings you will never approve of.
You see the time you actually are willing to put into something without a title, now if you could transfer that will into something meaningful.
The BAD:
You've just wasted a great deal of time.
You can't go back to a platonic friendship if you've crossed into the lines of intimacy on all levels.
If you haven't built a backbone, you're more likely to fall into a few other situations.
If you want to remain friends with the person it has to be from a distance, meaning the conversations have to be cut to a minimal, the seeing of each other can't happen for a while, and the intimacy has to be stopped completely in order for you to move forward, there shouldn't be a bond holding your emotions and feelings to that person.
If your friends know about your relations with this person your going to get some heat for even putting yourself through the situation at hand. Hence either you're going to be made the center of attention through conversation or be made an example of in public situations.
The UGLY but simply the truth:
Somethings are just not to be experienced for reason beyond your finite knowledge.Friends with Benefits is like the song "Half Crazy" by Musiq Soulchild. You put yourself in a predicament that cannot be reversed because people catch emotions and or feelings that initially come with that enterprise of such relations. Such as Jealousy, Envy, Hurt, and a bruised ego. You can't imagine how it takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You've basically set yourself up for a destined failure if you think about it. Who wants to go through a trial and actually get and error as the outcome?
Don't you wish you can have your friend back?...I'm just saying...
BRIII
